Testing Constructed Limitations in Leadership
The narratives you've accepted without testing
Every leader works within constraints. Some are real, and many are constructed. A constructed constraint is a limit you've accepted as true without ever checking whether it is. The cost of leaving those assumptions unchallenged adds up faster than most leaders realize. We look at the broader idea in constructed limitations and leadership growth.
Jennifer Houle, an HR leader with over 15 years in organizational design and leadership, says her path was shaped by three forces: luck, hustle, and ADHD. The ADHD mattered because it pushed her to build systems to compensate for what she first saw as deficits, and those systems became strengths. Before she saw that, though, she had accepted a constructed limit that nearly derailed her career: the belief that because she didn't fit traditional education, she wasn't smart enough to succeed in professional work.
How long do you let a false narrative run?
The story Houle told herself was specific and damaging. She watched peers move easily through university and took their ease as proof she wasn't good enough. Traditional education felt uncomfortable because the system wasn't designed for how her brain works. She had no words for that then, only a feeling that something was wrong with her.
Years passed before she challenged it. When she did, she tested it directly: she challenged the HR professional designation exam without the traditional university route and earned the same credential. That one test showed the constraint for what it was. Being underestimated, by others and by yourself, can end up sharpening how you see yourself, which we explore in how being underestimated builds self-awareness.
Accepting that false narrative cost her more than years of self-doubt. It kept leadership opportunities, intellectual contributions, and a whole professional trajectory out of reach for as long as the limit went unchallenged.
The pattern: accepting someone else's narrative
Constructed limits follow a pattern. Cultural messages, professional norms, or peer behavior reinforce a limit until you accept it without testing, because it's everywhere. It feels obvious, so it feels true.
Houle saw the pattern with public speaking. She assumed she must be terrified of it because "everyone says they are." The assumption held until she decided she wanted to speak, pitched DisruptHR, and found the fear wasn't there. She had simply taken on someone else's narrative as her own.
The same thing happened with writing. For more than 15 years in her field, she felt unqualified to write about HR leadership without a degree, a constraint built from outside messages about credentials and expertise. Once she challenged it by publishing, she was invited to contribute to The Globe and Mail, featured in industry publications, and asked to deliver webinars for her profession's regulatory body. Putting your thinking in public carries real risk, which we cover in the real cost of publishing your ideas, and for Houle the risk paid off.
Each time Houle tested a constructed limit, it fell apart under scrutiny. She had to choose to test it, though. Thinking harder or feeling more confident didn't make the constraint go away. Taking the action that proved the narrative false did.
Where leaders get stuck
For leaders under pressure, whether on a plant floor, in a hospital unit, or on a job site, constructed limits often center on expertise, credibility, and decision-making authority. One leader believes they can't admit uncertainty without losing credibility. Another believes delegating signals weakness, when it actually builds trust, as we lay out in how new leaders build trust and credibility. A third believes a technical background rules them out as a people leader, even though people skills can be learned.
These beliefs feel true because organizational culture and peer behavior reinforce them every day. They're still constructed.
When the stakes are high, working inside false constraints shows up in the team: less psychological safety, slower decisions, lower engagement, and more people leaving. What looked like a personal limit becomes an organizational problem.
The test
Houle's rule is simple: refuse to accept a constructed limit until you've tested whether it's true. That doesn't mean acting recklessly or ignoring legitimate constraints. It means deliberately separating real constraints (legal, physical, time-bound) from constructed ones (cultural narratives, professional assumptions, peer messaging).
The test is the proof. You don't need permission, a new mindset, or more confidence. Take the action the constraint supposedly forbids and watch what happens. Keep doing it, too, because learning about yourself never really stops.
For leaders building credibility and trust on demanding teams, examine the stories you've accepted about what a leader can do, what you can ask of your team, and what you can admit. Test them. The ones that collapse were never constraints.
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Dan Korus, Kestryl Edge founder, publishes The Updraft, a weekly newsletter on leadership, trust, and how teams actually perform. Subscribe here.